Wednesday, November 12, 2008

What do you think are your rights??

Okay, so I was involved in a discussion online today, and I mentioned that I believe that every person has the right to feel comfortable no matter where they're at. Now, sometimes you can leave a situation if you're not comfortable - other times, that's just not possible.

The discussion involved nursing a baby in public. Apparantley, in Canada, a woman was asked to go to the changing rooms or the viewing area of a privately owned pool because she was nursing her baby on the steps of the pool. A big discussion ensued after this

One lady was especially pro-nursing, claiming that it's her right to nurse a baby in public. I agree with this. I believe I have every right to feed my baby however and whenever I want (as long as it's not illegal, but come on, it's me!!) What I don't agree with is the woman that has no discretion whatsoever. I believe you can nurse in public, but have your shirt pulled down to the baby's mouth, and a second shirt on or a blanket to cover the stomach. Or a blanket thrown over the baby's head. This lady was VERY against this. She kept saying that it was "her right, and my baby's right, and who's to take that right away from me?" She also said that she doesn't care what others around her think or feel, so that's when I stated that I believe every person has the right to feel comfortable where they're at.

Example - don't I have the right to go to a restaurant of my choosing and to feel comfortable there? Or to go shopping at a mall with my three boys and to feel comfortable? Or go to a park an feel comfortable? I'm perfectly fine with a woman nursing her baby in public if it's discreet. I feel very uncomfortable when a woman is baring all. Maybe it's because I've grown up feeling that my body is very sacred and private, so to nurse with everything out there makes me uncomfortable for that person. Anyway . . .

So, to those blog readers out there - "What do you think are your rights?" Now, I know that some people haven't had babies, or had the chance to nurse, or even want to nurse - I'm not asking about that. I just want to know what you believe your rights are, from both directions - from a nursing mom, to an innocent bystander that might or might not be comfortable seeing a mom nurse her baby in public. And church doesn't count - moms (whether nursing or bottle feeding) have all sat in that little room on those "church-issued" chairs to feed their baby. I'm talking about in public - i.e. a restaurant, a mall, Walmart, a park, a pool . . . What are your thoughts?

9 comments:

Jen said...

I totally agree with you. As long as it's discrete, I don't see a problem with nursing a baby in public. But discretion is key--otherwise it's inappropriate, because we are all called to modesty. But as a mother, you should be able to nurse your baby anywhere you want, and I know plenty of moms who are so good at it, you can sit an talk with them and hardly even realize they're nursing! :)

Nathan and Shanna said...

I agree with you. I think that now days to many people try to prove that they are right, but when that right affects another person then whose right is right!

Karina said...

If you have to feed your baby then do it but don't flash everyone. Jared feels really uncomfortable when he can see a womans nipple and she looks at him like he's bothering her. Modesty comes first.

Jill said...

Because I am in the nursing phase of life at this moment, I have thought about this issue a lot. I wish SO bad that nursing in public was COMPlETLEY acceptable. It would be so great not to feel like I have to hide away from people to feed my baby when I am out. Not that I would ever "bare all" while feeding, but I get looks even with a blanket over me. I notice that people that I know even avoid talking to me or looking me in the eye if I am feeding my baby...(mostly men)...I am thinking of inventing a way of re-routing the milk to come out of my thumb,..no one can complain about that. I wish I lived in Africa so I could walk around shirtless...lol

Jillo said...

I think this is a great question! I have to agree with what has already been said, nursing in public is fine, but must be done with discretion. No one wants to see the full monty. I have sons that are of the age of curiosity and I feel that it is important for nursing mothers to remember that to some, boobies are very interesting. =)
That being said, a nursing mother should never feel like she has to hide away to nurse. I felt that way when I was nursing babies. It was a major factor in how long I nursed. A little discretion, and you are good to go.
Maybe I will move to Africa with Jill. Topless would be a whole lot easier.

Geier's said...

I'm with you, also. I really think women should be able to feed anywhere, but I don't want to be around someone who isn't treating her body with some form of respect (i.e. blanket, towel, whatever). We also as a society feel a forbideness about the naked body that can reach absurd proportions sometimes.-Becky (Hamann) Geier

Melanie said...

I agree with everyone too. I am also a nursing mother right now. It is very interesting when I am with all of my family I mean all 27 of us I usually go in the other room away from every one, and every one migrates to me soo it makes me not feel as guilty because they are all coming in the same room with me to visit so they are all pretty comfortable with it I guess. But I think it is important to be discrete, because like Jill O said their are some kids that are very interested in what you are doing because they have never been around someone that does nurse.

The Merk-ster said...

Ok, sorry, I'm not going to comment on the whole nursing thing, but I just read the little blurbs on the side of your blog and had to say that the one about the Newton wars totally cracked me up! Oh what imaginations they have. Thanks for coming to see our blog. Let us know next time you are in town.

ksreynolds said...

I remember one time at the resterant my new born baby was hungry and screeming and i didnt want to stand in bathroom and feed him cause it's hard with a new born. But all my friends said just go ahead and nurse him and will put you back in the corner and will help hide you. I had a blacket but I was so embarest still.

Another time I was with a friend at
sub way when she wiped out her breast and started feeding her baby and there was young boys working who where really uncomforable, but when the baby would stop eating and look away she would show everything and I finally grabed my jacket and asked her to please cover up.