I'm the choir pianist in our ward, and for an hour each Sunday evening, we have our ward choir practice. After the practice was over, the choir director and I were standing in the hallway talking, when a woman walked up to us asking if this was where the CES (Church Educational System) Fireside was. There was a training meeting going on, but not a fireside.
She was very obviously mentally handicapped, and when we explained that it wasn't at this building, she asked where it was. Now, very often at the beginning of sacrament meeting, I'm dealing with a fussy baby who wants to eat, or boys who are still trying to calm down after primary, so a lot of times I don't hear all of the announcements. This was no exception. I had no idea where this fireside was.
But, we thought it might be at the stake center, and told this woman so, and she asked if we could take her. We explained where it was, and she kept asking us to take here there. Our choir director had walked to the church, so I offered to take this woman (whom I will call Izzy) to the stake center.
We walked outside to the van, and Izzy just kept saying, "I won't get in trouble? I won't get in trouble? I won't tell no one." I was confused why she would get in trouble, so I assured her that I was trying to help her and that she wouldn't get in trouble. I asked if there was a reason that she would get in trouble, but I don't know if she understood my question, because she just kept repeating, "I won't get in trouble? I won't tell no one. You won't get in trouble, k."
Turns out, that the fireside was NOT at the stake center. I tried another building with Izzy asking the whole time I'm driving, "I won't get in trouble? I won't get in trouble?"
I didn't have the cell phone with me, so I decided to drive to our bishops house and get the info from him. He gave me the address for the fireside, and as we drove there, I tried to get to know her. I asked her name (Izzy is NOT her real name), and where she lived. She
refused to give me her address, although I had offered several times to just take her home. As we were driving along, she kept asking if she'd get in trouble, followed up by the remark, "I'll keep my big mouth shut. I won't get in trouble. I keep my big mouth shut."
Now, that to me is sad - not only that someone would say that to another person ("You keep your big mouth shut"), but to say it to someone that is mentally handicapped just really upset me. I told her that she didn't have a big mouth and that she didn't have to keep this a secret. I was trying to help her after all. She replied, "Okay." Followed by, "You won't get in trouble k? You keep your big mouth shut!"
Anyway, we made it to the other building, only to find the parking lot void of any cars except one that looked like it had been sitting there for about five years. *sigh* What to do now? I knew there was a chapel at appx. the same street numbers as the address the bishop had given me, just with different north/west coordinates. So, we drove there. Again, nothing. We asked a man that was there if he knew where the fireside was. His suggestion was to try the stake center again.
So, we did, and ended up knocking on a bishop's door to ask his help. He gave us the same address that we had previously tried (the one with the car that had been sitting there for half a decade), then tried calling one of his counselors when we told him that building was empty. He couldn't get a hold of his counselor, and told us that he thought it was probably over by then. (It was 7:00 - we'd been driving around for an hour.)
So, I offered again to take Izzy home, and again she refused. "I know how to get home. I can walk. It's not to far. I can walk home. I know my address. I can walk home. It's not far." She took off walking. Ahh! So, I followed her down the hall, and told her that I'd feel better if I could just take her home. She refused, and just kept on walking.
So, I went home and called the Stake Relief Society Pres. who happens to be in Izzy's ward, explained what had happened, and then asked if she was really okay to get home. Come to find out, she's not supposed to ride in cars with other people, because they have to pass some sort of driving test specific to Izzy's needs. Or something like that. Oops!
No wonder she kept asking, "I won't get in trouble?" And then saying that she'd "keep her big mouth shut." She knew she'd get in trouble for being in a car with someone other than her approved drivers, but didn't explain that to me. I just hope she didn't get in trouble because I tried to help.